And I told you Uhura was banging Spock! Hah! Of course, anything I might have said is completely irrelevant, because all the Trek we've ever seen never really happened. Yay.
Haven't seen the movie yet, but don't care about spoilers so I read your post. Frankly, you didn't really spoil anything key plot wise that I saw. I did want to reply to your last sentence though. From the early rumors about this movie, that scenario was hinted at, and even stated. That this was a "reboot" that could, in theory, change everything that has happened in the Star Trek universe that we have seen and "open a new book."
There are two schools of thought here.
1) People who treat everything they see on camera as bible. If you take that stance, then yes, this movie might mean (and I'm guessing since I haven't seen it) that everything that happened in Trek TOS, Trek TNG, DS9 and even Enterprise has been changed and may never have happened as a result of the plot of this movie. However, if you take that stance, there is SO MUCH contradiction anyway in movies and TV shows continuity wise, that you would probably go insane. I don't think anyone can take everything literally.
2) People that tend to separate works by creators and directors of the medium. What I mean here, is that there was Gene Roddenberry's Star Trek. Then was the Rick Berman era of Star Trek after Gene passed away, and now there is the JJ Abrams era of Star Trek. Why do these all have to be considered the same thing? Many people do not treat them as such, and rightfully so as they are VERY different.
I'm of camp #2. Personally, for me. I don't put the TNG era movies in the same universe as the TOS series, and movies canon wise. Why should I? Rick Berman very openly had an extreme dislike for the TOS Trek era. He hated it. He didn't respect it, and he went out of his way to pretend like it never existed. His treatment of Kirk and the TOS crew in Generations was done to spite the TOS era. Enterprise as a series entirely, was also there to spite the TOS era and almost "pretend like it didn't happen" to a degree. So I've never felt that Generations, First Contact and those movies were "canon" in the same universe as TOS and Gene Roddenberry's vision. Similarly, why would I consider a JJ Abrams reboot to be gospel and make Gene's Trek as if it never happened. It did. I watched it. It had a huge impact on our culture. So for me, these are three different artists creating from a similar concept. This happens all the time in comic books to the point of characters and people being alive in one adaptation, dead in another, and totally different in a third --- but they are all looked upon as separate works.
This is how I have approached Star Trek. Gene Roddenberry for TOS and early TNG. Rick Berman for Generations TNG and beyond, and now JJ Abrams for this "reboot." You can't get away with this for Star Wars since its all Lucas, but for Star Trek you certainly can.
So I guess the short version is I'm not going to be walking out of the theater thinking to myself "well I guess Kirk never fought Khan" or anything like that. I already believe that Gene Roddenberry's Kirk didn't sacrifice himself on the Enterprise B and Veridian III because Gene would have never done that. I keep them separate so I'll watch this for what it is, probably won't be to crazy about it, and move on.
Wow, long post.